FOR SONS

I look back now and see how i have  tried and sustained it when i consciously caution myself in the way i interact with my eldest son as a mother, a friend, his first love a confidant,prayer partner. See aside spiritual investment there are things i need to do, how i need to behave so that he will see also in me and treat the opposite sex the same way. I want him to respect women, to not raise his voice on a woman, treat a woman kindly with respect and gentleness.

A woman of God asked me a few questions as he saw how i relate with my sons.
Here it is, i know it helped her research and looking back i know its paying off.

 HER QUESTION:
How are u ma? Saw your  post on face book with your son.... Wow! So nice..... The Lord has been teaching me a lot lately on mums and their sons.... So will just ask you a few questions.. Looks like your boy is outgoing(an extrovert),am I right? How old is he and is he your first child? Hope he still sucks mummy's breast? Ha! Ha! How would u describe your relationship with him? Seriously, by the Spirit's leading,I have been doing a lot of research on this in relation to the women's ministry under my Ministry. Do well to help me with some answers... Am so glad I have found another mum to talk to....thank you....happy new year in advance!!!! Hope u are doing great walking with the Holy Spirit?

 MY ANSWER
Heaven on Earth ma, yes he is sociable n outgoing. He turned 15 in Sept, he is in SS3. No he doesn't such mummy's breast at all lol, my relationship with him is a mother, a friend, a confidant, his first love and prayer partner. As he is growing I make sure I push him out to attend camp programmes like 3 camps in a year, to build him up to the Kingdom star I want him to be .I want him to be sounded in Christ, leadership and other  skills. I teach him as a mother how to treat a lady because its how he treats and behave towards me that he will be to his wife because I want him to have a happy home and I sound it in his ears oftens. Though we fight on house chores which he pushes to his younger brother (smiles). He is a good child am blessed to have him and his brother. He prefers to talk or come to me than going to dad n I always say sometimes go tell daddy pls he ll laugh n say mummy now but i've told you. I let him talk to friends and bring them home so I see them and hear what comes out from their mouth the ones I do not like I ask him to stop being friends with them, there is one that came to the house while we were all working, he sat down in the living room and did not move to help his friend out, I asked him to leave and I do not want them together again cos when I was growing up I help my friends out with chores, friends are helpers, good friend are teachers of good things and I teach him that. I do not allow him get a hair cut that is not o.k at all, I sometimes follow him to the salon because its mostly Sundays they have their hair cut after church on our way home and I tell the barber pls no rubbish style my son, he will look at me smile and shake his head, they all know me and when he goes alone they know what to do ( i do not like any situation when a child is referred home like that saying 'don't you have a mother'. As you know ma and walk in the spirit cause you taught me a bit on that . He has never left me alone ever since I believed He existed. Thank you ma'am mwaaah

HER QUESTION

Wow! Wow! Wow! Thankss..... This is completely powerful and helpful. So in what ways do u comfort him when he needs to be comforted? Just with words,or with a hand around the neck or with petting /cuddling? Some boys want to be cuddled u know. Also I have met mums whose boys still suck(ed) their breast literally at the age your son is and even older, want to know if u have heard of anything like it before, if yes....pls give me examples and what do u think about it? If u have never heard about it,tell me what u think about it now that I have told u? Also what things do u use to spice up your relationship with him since beyond been mum,u are his first love....I have heard mums refer to themselves as their son's first love and that's exactly what it should be,but the thing is, there is nothing they do for or wt their sons to fill in this role as first love thereby most time pushing these boys into early unhealthy love relationships... What's your opinion on this? Mums must be trained to adequately love and help their boys.Thank u....and morning 

MY ANSWER 
With words ma'am and quote scriptures in the bible ask him to open it and read then I hug him. I refer to myself as his first love because it is from me he will learn how to compliment, respect and treat a woman so am conscious of that fact and teach him accordingly to be a gentleman, calm not raising his voice, on leadership as he will be the head of the home to provide for, care and maintain his family through the word with example from the home. I encourage to save and be able to have something in his purse not ask for money all the time and i has paid off because a times he comes to me for something and i maybe busy or not around i ask him to go ahead using part of his saving and when i return i give him back his money, i was shocked sometime ago to hear how much he has saved. As a man he need to cultivate the habit of saving.
 No I have not heard about big boys sucking their mum's breast at all. Yes mums must train their boys with care not with shouting and resentment, boys need care cause how you treat them is how they will treat people in their lives when they are grown and the society at large. 

 HER RESPONSE
Wow! Thankssssss again. I really appreciate your replies..... Thank u.. Happy new year in advance once again. 

I believe that asides spiritual investment, you act it all out as well as a parent cause they will not only do as you say/teach, they will do as you do.

Thank you Mr Joseph Mwalukuku for the wake up call. 

Abduction of our precious girls

Dear Lord,

Please hear the cries of all the mothers of these children and arise Lord Father arise. Shake the camp of the enemy and by your power let these menace stop and stop forever. Amen

NIGERIAN WOMEN MOURN

My heart goes out to the parent of the pupils of FGC Buni Yadi, Borno State who were brutally massacred/ murdered in their sleep. The images have been in my mind eye just like the undergraduates that were set ablaze.

It is in solidarity of the sad sad day a preparation for a peaceful walk by concerned Nigerian mothers is set up to draw the attention of the government to the fact that we have had enough and ask God for His ultimate help to stop the sole called Boko Haram!
 Our children…. our future... our hope... our rising stars

The peaceful walk is tagged ....NIGERIAN WOMEN MOURN (NWM)

Women across the land ARISE!
Women and mothers are supposed to be the matrix of society..... 

A walk to mourn the WANTON KILLING AND ABDUCTION of our children,the future of our nation. It concerns us all.

NIGERIAN WOMEN MOURN - WALK

LAGOS:

Date: Thursday, 6th March, 2014
Meeting point: Oregun Road/LTV Junction to Alausa
Time: 8.30am
Dress Code: BLACK TSHIRT on skirts/hijabs/trousers

ABUJA:

Date: Thursday, 6th March, 2014
Meeting Point: Unity Fountain to NASS
Time: 8.30am
Mourning Dress Code: BLACK TSHIRT on skirts/hijabs/trousers

PORT HARCOURT:

Date: Thursday, 6th March, 2014
Meeting point: will be notified
Time: 8.30am
Mourning Dress Code: BLACK TSHIRT on skirts/hijabs/trousers

All Women should be Concerned. Please change your DP's and Timelines to reflect a period of mourning.

Kindly call undersigned for more information.
Laila St. Matthew-Daniel.

070 4385 1725 

SELF - CONFIDENCE

SELF - CONFIDENCE

One of the killer of Self - Confidence is Shame, see children often often times are ashamed when they do something wrong especially when the know it and are scolded by it. It is left to us as parent to not let the shame of doing something unworthy linger on in our children; yes what they did is shameful but it has to be shaken off their personality in Christ by our help as parent.
Forgiveness is paramount in this regard. Don't preserve the temporary behavior of that child because they do not know better we should guard and guide them as parent as a mother in the first instance.
It is important to know that it is God's love that changes us God does not  love us because we change it is His love that changes us.

Remember, that Righteousness in the heart produces beauty in Character.


Compliments of the Season to you all

Unconditional

'You will always be forgiven and LOVED extraordinarily by God. Don't ever feel like He is "done" or disgusted with you. He is your Father.'

Never let your children forget this above TRUTH. In forgiveness God is paramount it is  ever flowing and ever new.

Lo, Children are an heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty ma; so are children of thy youth..... Ps 127:3-4

An arrow is a fighting instrument with a pointed head, usually shot from a bow. It can also be used in hunting. In the hands of a gifted marksman an arrow is a lethal weapon.
Likewise, well fashioned children in the hands of God, are lethal weapons for destroying the works of the devil.
See the book of Ps 127:5.
Excerpts  from RAISING GODLY CHILDREN

I love asking my children to pray for me i feel and know they have unction and communion with God and sometimes that God will hear them faster (smiles).

My son  will say Mummy i wrote in my prayer banquet card that i want God to make me tall he said it will utmost seriousness and confidence that God has heard and he will soon see it manifest. I  was blessed in my heart because he knows what he  has asked his father will be given him.

Children in God's hands can decree a thing and it will come to pass speedily because the scriptures cannot be broken.

Today's happening

I was late in picking up my children from summer school this afternoon, i mean like an hour and a half late but even in my lateness my heart was with them. My mind was in zillion places at the same, oh what will they eat, oh i hope there is electricity at home so they will not be bored what will i cook for dinner tonight. Then i finally got to Teniola's school and they were both with the gate keeper waiting for me and Teniola  was foaming as if he would explode any minute now then i was vexed i lashed at him telling him even how my heart has been with them both but i have to work i asked if he would excuse himself in an examination and tell the examiner to excuse him to put his brother in school then he smiled, as he smiled my anger melted that's when Anjola answered and said Mummy me i know you are working o.

Hmmm Holy spirit i said in my mind what will i say as regards this scenario cause i have been ranting about   me, me, me and me so i asked do u love me the reply was affirmative, do you think i will just forget to come pick you up without any reason and even if i did (God forbid i forget my children so i smiled in my heart) can't you look for a means to call me, No Mummy,  what is the greatest gift, thing i can ever give to you as a mother aside making sure you are well cared for and he said the gift of knowing Jesus.

That's all i wanted to hear.