TESTIMONY TIME ! BREAKTHROUGH TIME!

Raising children in a godly way has eternal blessings/ rewards to it. You are rested knowing by it you can trust them to walk in the way of the Lord.
We decided to change my youngest son Anjolaoluwa to a boarding school and after all requirements done and list was pasted his name was number 5.
I got home and said, still seated in the car:
Me: Anji your name came out
Anji: I know now
Me: how did you know
Anji: because God is faithful
I smiled my words have rooted in his heart and subconscious. God is faithful, always.
Teniola his brother will say,Mummy didn't God do it before? He will again, so relax mama am praying too and I believe Him.
Scriptures in being fulfilled. I and the children that the Lord has given are for signs and wonders. Of cause they will stand with me to fight the enemy and we will be victorious!

Yesterday at the fellowship programme it was testimony time and came out first and I was dumbfounded
Anji: I want to thank God first for giving me my mother, I want to thank Him for making me have a good mother who teaches me everything I know and he came to hug me. I also want to thank God that I will resume in FA.
See me seated looking at him. Scriptures being fulfilled: your children shall call you blessed!
Mama I love you, God bless you and he salutes. That's Teniola's way of saying bye mum.
Keep at it beloveds be conscious of letting Jesus into them and at the end it shall speak, oh yes it will speak!!!!

TRAINING UP A CHILD

TRAINING UP A CHILD
(copied from my coach, sponsor, teacher's tweets Dr. Oludayo)


We need to be heroes to our children. We need them to see their parents as exemplary leaders in life. 
 

Training up a child demands showing him how to get things done. Don’t live a crooked way before him. 

Training up a child demands being true to all that is around us. Never deceive your child by your conditions. 

Training up a child demands sincerity. Never pat him on a back for a little wrong that will eventually ruin him.

Training up a child demands discipline. Confront the tip of the iceberg conduct of indiscipline early. 

Training up a child demands follower-ship. Your children must drink from your own cistern for values formation.

Training up a child demands motivation. Show them pictures of a future that's greater than glories of the past.

Training up a child demands passion. Get involved in child's development. It must never be passive but active. 

Training up a child demands equipping. Guide your children with a creed, let them know how to read and to lea.

Training up a child demands being intentional. You can’t give to assumption requires deliberate action to excel.

Training up a child demands observation. You must pay attention to what occurs in and around their lives. 

Training up a child demands permission. You must never coerce them to act in a way that is beneficial to them. 

Training up a child demands partnership. You must collaborate with them to achieve shared goals of the family. 

Training up a child demands support. You must give them what they lack to attain the noble heights they seek. 

Training up a child demands administration. You must make them take decisions based on rules using right tool.

Training up a child demands leadership. You must take them from where they are to where they ought to be. 

Training up a child demands empowerment. You must hold them accountable for the outcomes of their actions. 

Training up a child demands sacrifice. You must be willing to give up something of value for a greater value.

Training up a child demands persistence. You must keep doing what is required until you see what you desire. 

Training up a child demands optimism. You must keep showing faith even when the result you expect isn’t in view.

Training up a child demands confidence. You must ensure they can speak on their feet and not be cowards. 

Training up a child demands responsibility. Don’t promise what you can’t provide, don’t spend what you can’t afford.

Training up a child demands strategy. Teach them to delay gratification but gain mastery over procrastination. 

May God help raise godly children who will bring us glory.

As i sit looking at the poster my mind flashes to all instances and experiences. Truly pushing your children to know Jesus gives you rest.
PUSH THEM TO KNOW JESUS....

CHILD CARE RUDIMENTS by Pastor Mrs. Faith Oyedepo.
“Then he took the children into his arms and placed his hands on their heads and he blessed them.”
Mark 10:16 (TLB)

Children that are termed “stubborn”don’t behave the way they do because they chose to or they want to punish their parents;they sometimes do so because they lack the required love and care to make them understand the effect of their behaviour on others. We grow in stages, and in as much as an adult requires love to be sustained in this world, a child requires more love if he or she must stand tall amidst other negative calls to their development.

Some parents actually desire to show love and care to their children, but might not know how. This is why I have decided to share some care tips with you, drawing examples from Jesus’ method of showing care and love to the children that came around Him during His earthly ministry.

Understand that your children are mostly drawn by affection, and this can never be too much for them. One way people feel affection is through touch and your children are not exempted. So, you must learn to carry, hug and kiss them. Let them know that your love for them is not just in words, but actions also.
You should also bless them daily. Do not use curse words on them, rather bless their present and future in words and prayers. A wise man once said: “A torn jacket is soon mended, but hard words bruise the heart of a child.” So, be careful what you say to them.

You should sacrificially fend to their needs. No matter how little you have, you must not let them know that you are not capable of taking care of them. You could help them appreciate the much in your little, through your method of presentation. Most importantly, be sure that you are a good example to them at all times. Rather than nag, show them what to do by your positive examples. Remember always that children need love, especially when they don’t deserve it. You will not fail in this assignment in the name of Jesus Christ!

Remain Blessed!

EARLY MORNING DEW!

As i drove from early morning prayer hour in church this morning to drop my youngest son in school. The song that we sang in church before we departed was in my heart, you know the song 'OH  WHEN THE SAINTS GO MARCHING IN, OH  WHEN THE  SAINTS GO MARCHING IN, LORD I WANT TO BE  IN  THE NUMBER WHEN THE SAINTS GO MARCHING IN'.

We sing it another way in church like this ' OH WHEN THE SAINTS ARE BREAKING FORTH, OH WHEN THE SAINTS ARE BREAKING FORTH, LORD I WANT TO BE IN THE NUMBER WHEN THE SAINTS ARE BREAKING FORTH.


So as i was driving i changed the song to thus and my son joined in: OH WHEN MY CHILDREN ARE BREAKING FORTH, OH WHEN MY CHILDREN ARE BREAKING FORTH, LORD I WANT TO BE ALIVE TO SEE MY CHILDREN BREAKING FORTH !!!

I believe it was by the leading of the Holy spirit. Lets sing the song everyday and dance with our children as we do.

BUILDING BLOCKS by Pastor Mrs. Faith Oyedepo

“And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.” 2 Timothy 3:15

In today’s busy world, everyone seems to be in a hurry. Parents do all it takes to “make ends meet” and this, for the most part, neither allows them enough “talk-time” with their children nor an opportunity for fellowship with them. Before the children wake up in the morning, they’ve left for work and won’t return till they already are asleep. This therefore leaves these children in the hands of caregivers; more than they are with their parents. 

Many times, these caregivers end up being unhelpful in properly raising these children. This is because there is no way they can raise your children in the exact same way that you would, by yourself. Values differ and this is most evident in child raising. However, while it is not totally wrong to keep your children under the care of others, you can secure their destinies by first ensuring that they are adequately fed with good morals through God’s Word.

The reason why some children go astray is that they are not properly guided spiritually by their parents; so when left with others, they don’t know what is applicable and what’s not. Truth is: You are the primary beneficiary when your children are properly trained; especially in the fear of the Lord. This is because you will be restful, even when they are far away from you.

There is nothing worth more to your child than your time, loving words of advice and your physical presence with them. There is nothing like taking responsibility for their development today, because you will be rest assured of their future tomorrow. No one can take up this responsibility the way you would, so put your hands to work. You will not fail in the name of Jesus Christ!

Remain Blessed!

LOVE AND CONTROL

Love and Control

Love and control are both very important for effective discipline, discipline that is lasting and that produces a good character. The two are equally very essential because where there is control and no love it results into rebellion, bitterness, hatred and eventually destruction.

Hmmm, see it’s not all about curses, abuses, emotional wrecking and bruises that makes the child behave well enough. See I have tried just control and it did not work at all, I shout a lot to have my way but as my children grow shouting does work anymore, as they were younger it instilled fear into them and as they grow Teniola would say ‘Mummy why do you always shout, I have heard you I will do what you asked me to do Mummy don’t stress yourself just relax’ and I will take his advice and relax (smiles)

I met a precious woman the other day going to pick her children from school and as I packed to give her a lift with someone else. She was then narrating to the man that she punished her children that day that she did not give them food to eat and no money was given to them as well, why the man asked she said cause they did something wrong and that is their punishment. I smiled and cut into the conversation: ma that is not the right thing to do and I could say that because I was punished in that manner too growing up, and I knew how I got food to eat. They will get hungry, they will beg their friends for food or money, they will steal to eat.

In essence you cannot control a child you do not love and a child you cannot control you can’t claim to love. You need 100% of both love and control for a child.

What is Love? 1 Corinthians 13:4 says love is patient and kind

Always let your child know that you love them and disciplining them (control) is because of your love for them. Do not beat the in anger because injury will occur, do not correct them in anger because you may say something bad in anger.

Children watch our actions and words towards them and if it does not portray love in any way they will doubt it even if you say you love them.

There is nothing wrong in saying ‘am sorry’ to your child, I have said it a couple of times and will still say it because there are times I feel I shouldn’t have shouted or be angry I should just have said what I wanted to say and see the changes I want or see them do what I asked to be done. I hold them and say am sorry and hug them till I see the smile and the hug back and we are good and no more tension or tears. Saying you are sorry after you have examined yourself that you are wrong is treating them with respect, yes they should be treated with respect as well as they treat us parents with respect.

Always demonstrate your love by your deeds: your words, your acts, your prayers. Compliment the in love and speak positivity into their lives. As you point out what they did wrong, also point out that good character they possess or that good thing they did a while ago, sometime ago and ask that they continue in it. Always correct and praise thereafter.

My son just wrote his JAMB a week ago and I was expectant because I saw his preparedness for the exam and when the result was sent to him, he could not hold it, he sent me a message ‘Mommy I passed!!! I was eager to hear his score I got home and he told me then I paused cause I felt he could have done better but I turned and sent him a message good son was expecting higher but God be praised and he came to me and hugged me he was happy mummy is proud.

What is Control?  To exercise influence over, to suggest or dictate (Dictionary)

To control is to have authority and power in order to direct, manage or rule. You cannot train a child if you cannot control the child, no not possible; God forbid we be as Eli in 1 Sam 2.

Until you are able to control them, you cannot mould their character and using love and control will keep a child on the path of a disciplined life. A child who knows his parents love him and has been trained to obey their authority will find it easy to allow a loving God control his/her life.

CONTROL IS THE STABILIZER OF LOVE (and both are spiritual weapons to raising godly children)

Some Excerpt from Raising Godly Children by Pastor Mrs. Faith Oyedepo